When You Suspect an Eating Disorder

It's common for individuals with eating disorders to act defensive and angry when confronted for the first time. They often have trouble admitting, even to themselves, that they have a problem.

Trying to help a person who doesn't think he or she needs help can be hard. Remember that it's not your job to diagnose your loved one or friend - only a doctor can do that.

It's important to approach this individual about your concerns in a loving, supportive and non-threatening way. It's a good idea to bring up your concerns at a time and in a setting where he or she feels comfortable and relaxed, and where there are no other distractions.

They may be more receptive to a conversation if you focus on your own concerns, and use "I" statements, rather than "you" statements. For example, you may want to steer clear of statements like "you have an eating disorder" or "you're obsessed with food," which may sound accusatory, and only illicit anger and denial. Instead, you may want to say "I imagine that it's very stressful to count calories of everything you eat" or "I'm worried that you have lost so much weight so quickly." It's also a good idea to explain specific things they have said or done that have made you worry.